COVID-19 UPDATE: Our office remains open. However, health and safety for our team members, our families, and our clients is our priority and so everyone is working remotely. Our office is well-equipped for this as we have done this for several years. At this time, all appointments will be conducted via video and telephone. Call our number to schedule your appointment today.
Blending a Family? 5 Tips for a Smooth Transition! - Katrina S. Zafiro

Blending a Family? 5 Tips for a Smooth Transition!

It is becoming increasingly common for a family to be made up not just of a mom, dad, and children, but rather a blended family involving stepparents and stepsiblings. If you and your significant other each have children from previous relationships and you are thinking about moving in together, or even getting married, you will need to do everything you can to ensure a smooth transition. While every blended family will be unique, there are some things you can do to make things easier.

Acknowledge the Awkward

Perhaps the most important thing you can do is avoid unrealistic expectations. Don’t pretend that everyone is going to move in together and there won’t be any problems or awkwardness. Enter this new phase of your relationship with the understanding that some parts of it are going to be weird for everyone, especially at first.

Focus on Fun Family Activities

One of the best ways to bring everyone in your new blended family together is to intentionally plan out fun family activities. This could be big things like fun vacations together, or simple things like weekly game nights. The important thing is to make sure all of the children can take part and have a good time. This may mean rotating between a number of different activities so everyone can have fun.

Parenting the Entire Pack

The kids are going to quickly figure out how to get the most benefit for themselves out of this situation. This may mean going to one parent (or stepparent) when asking for certain things or trying to play the parents against each other. This needs to be avoided right from the beginning. Make sure you and your significant other are on the same page regarding how you are running your newly combined household. It may be necessary to delay giving a child permission for something until you can run it by the other parent, just to make sure they haven’t already given an answer. By presenting a united front right from the beginning, you will set a good standard for years to come.

Avenue for Addressing Issues

There will definitely be issues that come up both right at the beginning, and for many years to come. Establishing a simple way to address these types of issues as a family is essential. For example, if one child feels like their new step sibling is causing problems, they should be able to bring it to the parents to investigate. Scheduling family meetings can also be a good opportunity for everyone to discuss potential issues before real harm is caused.

Make it Uniquely Your Family

While the above tips can provide some great ideas for how to get through this transition, make sure you remember that your family is uniquely yours. Coming up with your own ways of handling things will help to build your family identity and bring everyone together. It will definitely take some work, but it will be worth it in the end.

The following two tabs change content below.

Zafiro Law

As an attorney, I am passionate about helping my clients achieve peace of mind in navigating the complex areas of family law and immigration law. Your case will get my full and dedicated attention—whether you are seeking to navigate the complexities of your family law matter or overcome the challenges of your immigration law case.

Latest posts by Zafiro Law (see all)

%d bloggers like this: